MATTERS ARISING

Someone was asked to explain what he understand as love and this is what he said "Love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person". Unfortunately, this is how many of us see love, thus our approach to relationship. Consciously or unconsciously, we believe love is a sensation (based on physical and emotional attraction) that magically, spontaneously generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. And just as easily, it can spontaneously degenerate when the magic "just isn't there" anymore. You fall in love, and you can fall out of it. So what is love ― real, lasting love? Love is the attachment, which results from deeply appreciating another goodness. The word "goodness" may surprise you. Your understanding may vary from mine. But because I see love as a choice. I see it as something very active. I see love as something one can make happen. You can create it by focusing on the good in another person (and everyone has some). If you can do this easi...

Reflection, one of the major guideline to life improvement. In fact, among the  three methods of gaining wisdom. The first is reflection, which happens to be the highest. The second is limitation, which is the easiest. And the third is the experience, which  is the bitterest. Reflection simply put ' serious thought or consideration'. But in more elaborate point, is the art of pondering on one's virtues and faults. It is the ability to reflect on the "here and now", on your feelings and thoughts. This also includes reflecting on the thoughts, emotions and the feelings of others, which will help improve oneself as you assess and reflect upon the decisions you made in life. Use your reflections as an opportunity to make profound and a constructive or positive change in your life. This may require letting go of some people and retaining others. This will depend greatly on the outcome of your reflections, also on the accuracy and intuitive feelings of these reflection...

When you're down, everything feels bad. But mehn! When you're in the dumps, even the one thing that gives you joy, becomes scary. You suddenly wished to be left alone in this whole wide world. You become afraid even of the special people in your life. The last thing you want, is to see happy, joyous people laughing and having everything you can't at the moment. It's like a part of you is keeping you hostage and won't let you go. Your world suddenly become like the talk of Jesus' second coming, for more than 2000 years the gospel has been taught and preached to an extent many are considering it a hoax, in fact some has termed it so. You wonder, will there be an end to this? Wow! You are really not down but in a  dump, your physiology is in a down state and your thoughts are exacerbating the process with tales of how down you are, how it may last forever and how your situation is devoid of any hope. Have you ever noticed, when you are down, you feel like it wil...